Mourning

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In a Note to Self, Rolando Andrade wrote some time ago: “Mourning is not goodbye, but a forever, that hurts in the memory.” 

Mourning…it is something we have all done or still do in one way or another. It can be for a loved one, human or non-human, a particular situation or even a period in one’s life. 
We don’t say goodbye to our loved ones, it doesn’t feel ‘good’ and it’s not ‘bye’ since we won’t see them again, it’s a forever whose memory hurts. 

Leaving the place where we have lived happily for years can result in mourning, although it may not be recognised as such. We can mourn a particularly painful period in our life, either because we feel the weight of what happened or because of the loss of years.   

Mourning loved ones has become commercialised, it has created a whole industry, from printed cards expressing sympathy to lighting virtual candles on websites. Not personal, handwritten notes to the family, or lighting a candle in a church, but an open message everyone can read. 

Sean Dietrich posted a beautiful ‘Memorial’ this morning. Back to the core. 
Memorial Day is for remembering those who served, the veterans, who are no longer with us, whether they died in a war or not. Remembering what they did, their spirit, their fight, their sacrifice.  
Honouring their memory, that hurts forever. 


 Just my humble view.